Today's word: personally. Definition: 4) In a personal manner, took it personally.
I'm inclined to think people take themselves a little too seriously these days. Maybe it's because the world is becoming increasingly bent around our individual convenience, and technology is designed to "belong" to us in increasingly smaller and more responsive forms. Maybe it's because everything sleek and cool now starts with "i." Or maybe it's because everyone has more of a voice online and can create exactly the life they want to present virtually -- Facebook profiles that are all about "me," Twitter updates every four seconds detailing the most inane snippets of daily life, blogs where anybody can write whatever's knocking around in their head and send it out for public consumption.
Author's note: Yes, I realize I just lambasted the medium I'm currently typing in. I can't deny it, and I can't even say that this blog is an exception, because that would be taking myself a bit seriously, wouldn't it?
But I think it's this warped sense of self-importance or entitlement that causes people to take ridiculous things too personally. In the interest of full disclosure, here are two ridiculous things I take personally.
1. Traffic. Well, not traffic in general. I don't assume that the universe is out to make me late to an appointment or that the road construction is some kind of punishment from God (although it feels like it sometimes). It's not these larger concepts I'm concerned with; what I take personally is mano y mano ... when someone cuts me off or honks at me. Irrationally, I assume that this person has somehow singled me out to pick on me, and that from that moment, we'll be engaged in a not-so-friendly give and take of vehicular tag.
Of course, I don't act on this thought, partly because I think road rage is unbecoming, but mostly because I have no desire to get shot. I remember that, in reality, that person has already moved on (literally and figuratively), and beyond being momentarily annoyed with something that may not have even been my fault, they will not be stewing over the incident ten seconds from now. This doesn't apply to the time someone roared past me and gave me the finger out their window the ENTIRE length of the Mendota bridge, but I had just moved to the city from a town with three stoplights, so they probably had a valid point.
2. Movies. If anyone knows me even remotely, they probably know that I love movies. I don't mean in a common, casual, "Oh, yeah, I think I saw that one" way, because if you can't remember it, there is either something wrong with you, or you weren't in the theater. I'm not saying my attention to storyline and detail makes me a better person, I'm just saying that for me, movies do exactly what they're suposed to do: transport you to a world of their creation.
So in my mind, movie viewing is serious. It takes some effort (and silence) to stay engaged. Therefore, it absolutely blows my mind when people talk during a film. I don't care if you're in a theater or sitting at home with the latest from your Netflix queue ... if you have a comment or thought, keep it to yourself. We're all still going to be here when the credits roll and discussion time begins. IMDB will be available to answer your burning questions about the last place you saw that actress. If you think the movie's too long or too boring or too stupid, maybe just leave. But don't sit there and complain, ruining it for the rest of us. To me, that is the height of rudeness, and few things you do will tick me off more.
Naturally, those rules don't apply if we're watching something silly that we've mutually agreed to trash all the way through. Oh, you didn't know the rules? That's because they're crazy, just like all the things we get worked up over when we're taking things too personally. I'm as guilty of it as anyone.
The problem with taking things too seriously is that by doing so, we're assuming the universe gives a flying rip about our personal issues, which seem enormous to us but are rather infinitesimal on a cosmic scale. None of the things that happen to us are truly earth-shattering -- very few are even ironic, despite what Alanis Morissette would have you think. (Rain on your wedding day? Coincidence. Rain on your wedding day when you're marrying a meterologist who predicted 75 and sunny? Ironic.)
So next time I'm getting a horn blast on the interstate or resisting the urge to shhhhsh someone at AMC 14, I'm going to give that person, and the cosmos, the benefit of the doubt. Most likely, neither of them intend anything malicious. I guarantee they're not giving me even a fraction of the attention I'm giving myself.